Experiencing Life

This is the most difficult thing I've ever written. It’s painful, sad, unpleasant, lonely, scary, relieving, necessary, and something no one should have to suffer through quietly or alone — but we do, all the time. More »

Occupy a Position, Not Just a Stance

With all the political fervor, discontent, disillusion, and general despair going around, you’ve probably heard (or even said) “if you don’t like the job they’re doing, vote them out.” First, this is a nonsensical statement. Second, we can develop a better plan.    More »

Your Life is Not a Checklist

…or, “How we’ve got this whole ‘goal’ thing backwards” …or, “How to avoid a mid-life crisis” First, let’s talk about checklists.  Most of us have one, many of us were given one and expected to live by it.  At first glance, there’s nothing inherently wrong with it… but, I maintain […] More »

Monogamy is a choice.

That’s right.  I said it.  Just like any other lifestyle decision, monogamy is a choice. Unfortunately, many of us haven’t actually made most of our lifestyle choices, and this one is no different.  We may expect it from our partners, but most have never really committed to it themselves… and […] More »

A Word about Happiness: Lifestyle

I’ve noticed some things about people who are truly happy with their lives.  The first thing is that they’ve been an active participant in deciding what kind of lifestyle they want and have put out the effort to design it.  Sometimes they succeed, sometimes they don’t… but being an active […] More »