Getting My Mind Right When I first started thinking about 2018, my body, spirit, and mood just sank a bit. It’s been a very difficult year on a number of fronts. More »
2018 – A Retrospective
Egalitarian Crusaders, Allies of the Highest Order, and Predators
After centuries of silence — or in many cases, speaking out, but not being heard — we’re in the middle of a cultural norm pendulum swing that is necessary, ugly, painful, detrimental, and probably the only way up from where we’ve been. More »
12 Things I’ve Learned as I Get Older
I've always learned a lot from listening to my elders, so I figured that for my birthday, I'd like to pass along a little cheat-sheet of things I hope you can learn from me. More »
Actions ≥ Words
I’ve learned a lot about people, behavior, and the ways we make decisions over the years. I’m definitely still learning, but once in a while, I find it helpful to stop and share some of these things with others. More »
Trust, Friendship, Love, and Epiphanies
I had an epiphany a few months ago, but in order to give it context, I need to tell you a story. It’s a story that few people know — not because it’s a secret, it simply doesn’t come up in conversation very often. Once Upon a Time… More »
Conscientiousness Is Holding Us Back
Conscientiousness is holding us back… and it should. We’re f**king adults. More »
A Raging Fire
F**k It If your year has been anything like mine, you’ve buried more people than you thought was possible in a 12-month period, most of which were surprises, all of whom were significant. More »
Speaking of Love…
What do I know of love? Hard to say. I can tell you all about how I experience love, but I can’t tell you much about receiving it. More »
Fear: Bears vs. Skydiving (or Offices, or Love)
Fear and I Have an Interesting Relationship. Even as a child, if something scared me, I’d take a moment and determine whether that fear was warranted (e.g., approaching two bear cubs while hiking) or not (e.g., jumping out of an airplane while strapped to someone who’s not only extremely skilled, […] More »
Traditions & Choices
First and foremost, I hope that you and yours have a marvelous celebration this season and that you start the year off feeling loved! More »
I Want A Ring That Tarnishes
I want a ring that tarnishes. If I’m going to wear a symbol, if it’s supposed to represent a relationship, or our commitment to it, I want a ring that tarnishes. More »
Experiencing Life
This is the most difficult thing I've ever written. It’s painful, sad, unpleasant, lonely, scary, relieving, necessary, and something no one should have to suffer through quietly or alone — but we do, all the time. More »
My Heroes Don’t Wear Capes
(or "Meet My Friend, Jordan") There's a trend I'm seeing and I couldn't be more proud of my fellow human beings. YOU WANT TO READ THIS. Spread the word! More »
2013: Amazeballs
This year has been amazing. Almost a reward for surviving 2007-2012 without any felonies. More »
Your Way Doesn’t Work
I just watched this movie, The Way, with Martin Sheen and Emilio Estevez playing a father and son (perfect casting, if you ask me). 😉 While I admit to having a bit of wanderlust, I can’t say I’m ‘lost’ or understand what the father was going through entirely (beyond the […] More »
One Simple Change That Will Help Us All Make More Sense
We don’t make sense. And I mean this in the most affectionate way possible… but we don’t. We need only pause and reflect on things that we do regularly, out of habit or ‘tradition’, to come to the same conclusion. More »
Occupy a Position, Not Just a Stance
With all the political fervor, discontent, disillusion, and general despair going around, you’ve probably heard (or even said) “if you don’t like the job they’re doing, vote them out.” First, this is a nonsensical statement. Second, we can develop a better plan. More »
Your Life is Not a Checklist
…or, “How we’ve got this whole ‘goal’ thing backwards” …or, “How to avoid a mid-life crisis” First, let’s talk about checklists. Most of us have one, many of us were given one and expected to live by it. At first glance, there’s nothing inherently wrong with it… but, I maintain […] More »
Monogamy is a choice.
That’s right. I said it. Just like any other lifestyle decision, monogamy is a choice. Unfortunately, many of us haven’t actually made most of our lifestyle choices, and this one is no different. We may expect it from our partners, but most have never really committed to it themselves… and […] More »
A Word about Happiness: Lifestyle
I’ve noticed some things about people who are truly happy with their lives. The first thing is that they’ve been an active participant in deciding what kind of lifestyle they want and have put out the effort to design it. Sometimes they succeed, sometimes they don’t… but being an active […] More »